At the beginning of most relationships there is always the
excitement, always the anticipation of seeing that person often and talking to
that person every day, even every minute and you never really get tired of it.
That’s in the beginning, the first cycle of every relationship when you are
still just trying to get to know the person and he/she is all a mystery to you
and you want discover more. There are so many questions and like a chapter in a
book you can’t wait to read more and find out. This can go on for some months
depending on how strongly you feel for the person.
But what happens after that,
what happens after every secret has been told, every pet peeve has been
unleashed and nasty habits has been out in the open?
This is the second cycle and this may just be the longest part of your relationship. The part where there is nothing new anymore and the part when you’ve both let you’re guards down. This is the part where you have to put in extra effort just to make it work after all when you’ve just met you wanted to him/her so bad, right.
For
most people this is scary because they see no spark anymore and that was what
kept them going for the relationship in the first place. But before you even
think of breaking up or worst getting a divorce or annulment, why not try relationship
counselling.
While this seems more rigid you’ll actually be surprised with the
insights you’ll learn from undergoing it. Relationship counselling doesn’t only
mean you need to see a therapist, although if you are open to it then by all
means do it to save that special thing you’ve got going on but you can also
reach out to friends and family who have been supporting your relationship
right from the start.
Also, know that nothing is really perfect and your
partner may have some slips but if you both choose to make it work and you
admit that the relationship is worth it you need to go the extra mile. While
going to the movies or the beach may now just be a routine for you both keep in
mind that there is really nothing to be afraid of.
Excitement is always at the
beginning but your bond and what you both have been through, that’s the peak
and that’s what makes a strong relationship.
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